Let's Hear it for the Dads aka Meet my Friend, Rob
Posted on 18 February 2016
It’s an ever-growing trend that dads are staying home, while mom's go to work. Or, in the case of many of our friends, the parents splitting the child-rearing duties between auditions, side jobs and generally working their butts off.
This was our household. My husband is an actor, but when I got pregnant, the reality was my steady job and benefits would be far more likely to sustain us.
Watching Mike's sacrifice, along with so many other great dads I know, inspired me to feature them. I'll be doing a monthly interview to highlight each of these fantastic guys.
This month features our videographer, and all-around Super-Dad, Rob! He get's to go first, because I spent the day with him today, and little Quinn (far left), while he worked on fixing my laptop.
(Did I mention, he's also IT for Chocolate Milke?)
Introduce yourself and your daughters:
My name is Rob Torres, and I have two daughters. Colette (Coco) is 3 1/2 years , & Quinn is just 13 months.
Describe your parenting style in 5 words or less:
dodge, duck, dip, dive, and dodge.
Ok, that's a hard one:
Love. Laughter. Learning. Patience. Compassion.
What was the reason that you, and your wife, decided for you to take a more active role in the day-to-day care of your girls?
Working in reality TV for over a decade was getting old. My wife, Jen, has better benefits and made more. And on top of that, I'm FAR more domestic. Cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, home maintenance...might as well add child rearing to the list.
How has being a more-or-less stay at home dad affected your self image?
I have days that are better than others. I really miss being creative, but I know I'm doing the best I can every day. My girls are awesome and are going to be amazing people. It's very rewarding knowing I was a big part of that.
What was one thing that surprised you about your role as a dad?
I thought I had some tough gigs before. Worked every shift you can imagine, been in demanding and stressful positions. Ha. That was nothing. I knew it would be challenging, but I never expected it would be such a nonstop marathon of responsibility. There are very, very, very few brakes for me.
What's one thing you hope your daughters will gain from their time with you?
What it means to be a good person, who love themselves and others.
What is one life hack / dad hack you can share with other parents?
If your future self could talk to you now, what would he say?